We moved house recently. We have downsized our home to reduce the size of our mortgage, to reduce the size of our spending on running a large house and to reduce our stress.

During this process I have been thinking a lot about how much stuff I have, but particularly my wardrobe.

Throughout winter I predominantly wear my work clothes, my workout gear and two pairs of jeans, one pair of tracksuit pants, three long sleeve tees, a hoodie.

I have a few shirts and two jackets and a couple of choices of dresses that I would wear out.

However in my cupboard I have at least triple that amount of clothing.

overwhelmed drowning

Here’s the thing I have been thinking most about: do I really need all of that clothing? How would I feel if I culled back on a lot of stuff? And then I get to the crux of the problem, how would people see me if I was wearing the same thing they have recently seen me wearing?

My perception of how others see me is driving me to hold onto things I don’t need or want.

Will someone like me less if they see me wearing the same clothes I always wear? Will people notice? Will people think I haven’t washed my clothes?

Will I regret culling my wardrobe if I do it?

Oh how screwed up is my thinking!

Why should what we are wearing really even matter? Or as in ‘The Work’ with Byron Katie, is this a case of needing to reverse the question and ask it of myself. Is this a case of my judgment of others?

I have followed Sarah Wilson – of ‘I quit sugar’ fame here in Australia – for some years now and watched as she has reduced wastage in the way she cooks and uses as much as she can of an animal, plant or vegetable, as well as how she lives. This includes her wardrobe. Her belief is that if we reduce the amount of stuff we have we can make our lives less stressful by having to make less choices, as well as helping reduce our impact on the planet.

I will probably talk about this a lot more before I decide whether I am going to make the jump to minimalizing my wardrobe, but for now it has brought up a lot of questions.

I’d love to hear your thoughts and feedback.

See you in the gym

 

Tanya Carroll

5 responses to “Authentically Me – When abundance becomes stressful”

  1. Karina Lamb says:

    Good reminder Tanya as I begin the task of clearing ready for another move! Interstingly some of the most intelligent and successful people in the word wear the same thing every day. The same thing! A ‘capsule wardrobe’. http://www.becomingminimalist.com/wear-one/
    How great would that be to spend less time on choosing clothes every morning. Or shopping. I stopped giving up on fashions many years ago and follow my own path. But I’m considering the everyday uniform – black dress, black jeans and top – and only bright funky jewellery or scarves as the difference. I’d only need a quarter of my wardrobe then! Keep blogging! 😊

  2. Andrea says:

    My rule, if you didn’t wear it last winter and it hasn’t made its way to your body this winter, it’s time to go!!!!donate and give to people who are in need! Just a thought

  3. Michelle says:

    I love this idea Tanya and have been thinking of doing the same in all aspects including homewares and everything in general (especially kids things and toys) it’s like the fight club quote of how your things end up owning you not the other way around!

  4. Matt Perrett says:

    Whatever we have in the world we must take responsibility for. So the more we have, clothes or other things, the more responsibility we must shoulder.
    I’m off to the op shop today with some clothes to donate. Thanks Tania for sharing.

  5. Nez says:

    I have lots of clothes because I come across clothing I really like and struggle to say no even though I don’t need it. It’s mostly t-shirts with cool designs, retro characters and awesome slogans, and I really want them! My strategy is to avoid the shops but even then I somehow manage to come across clothes too often that I want to buy.

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